Coaching With Heart Essay, Research Paper
DEAR TEAM,
WELL I CAN SAY I HAVE NEVER DONE SOMETHING LIKE THIS BEFORE IN THE THREE YEARS I HAVE BEEN COACHING THAT IS. I HAVE NEVER WRITTEN A LETTER TO MY TEAM. ACTUALLY IT IS FUNNY BECAUSE ABOUT SIX MONTHS AGO I WAS AT THIS SAME COMPUTER WRITING MY COACH A LETTER. I HAVE BEEN WHERE ALL YOU HAVE BEEN AND I KNOW HOW IT IS BUT I THINK YOU DON?T REALIZE HOW NICE IT IS TO HAVE TWO COACHES THAT CARE ABOUT YOU. IN YOUR FUTURE YOU ARE GOING TO COME ACROSS A LOT OF COACHES WHO DON?T CARE ABOUT YOU OR YOUR FEELINGS. I COULD BET THAT YOU WILL NEVER HAVE ANOTHER COACH ASK YOU TO WRITE THEM HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT ISSUES BECAUSE MOST COACHES JUST DON?T CARE AND I COULD ALSO BET THAT YOU WILL NEVER HAVE ANOTHER COACH WRITE YOU A LETTER TO DISCUSS SOMETHING THAT HAPPENED THAT IS BOTHERING HER. I CAME HOME TONIGHT AND REALLY DID NOT WANT TO DO MUCH WHY BECAUSE I DID NOT FEEL LIKE MUCH. YOU SAY I BRING YOU DOWN AND BRING YOUR SELF-ESTEEM DOWN WELL YOU DID THE SAME THING TO ME. YOU REALLY DID LET ME KNOW HOW YOU FELT AND IT WAS ALL ANGER. IT SEEMED TO ME THAT YOU ARE SELECTIVE LISTENERS AND ONLY HEAR WHAT YOU WANT TO HEAR. YOU SAID TODAY THAT I ONLY TALK ABOUT NEGATIVES WELL THAT IS A BUNCH OF BS. MAYBE YOU ONLY CHOOSE TO HEAR AND LISTEN TO THE NEGATIVES AND FORGET ABOUT THE POSITIVE THINGS I DO HAVE TO SAY. YOU WILL NEVER BE ABLE TO PUT YOURSELVES INTO MY SHOES UNTIL YOU GET TO EXPERIENCE COACHING. IT CAN BE A REAL EASY JOB IF YOU DON?T CARE, BUT THE PROBLEM WITH ME AND TODD IS THAT WE DO. TODD AND I BOTH CARE ABOUT EACH AND EVERY ONE OF YOU INDIVIDUALLY AND THAT IS WHY WE GET UPSET. HELL IF I DID NOT CARE ABOUT YOU I WOULD NOT CARE IF YOU WON OR LOST AND I WOULD NOT CARE IF YOU WOULD IMPROVE I WOULD JUST BE THERE AS A SPACE FILLER. YOU TAKE A LOT FOR GRANTED HOW MANY COACHES DO LITTLE THINGS FOR YOU TO TRY AND MAKE YOU MORE POSITIVE. I DO TRY AND ALTHOUGH I GET UPSET I THINK I DESERVE A LITTLE MORE CREDIT THAT YOU GAVE ME YESTERDAY. IT IS ABOUT RESPECT. DO YOU KNOW IF YOU WERE ON A DIFFERENT TEAM IN THIS CLUB YOU MIGHT NOT EVEN SEE THE FLOOR. I HAVE 12 OF YOU GIRLS TO WORK WITH AND YET I TRY MY HARDEST TO GET EVERYONE IN AND LET NO ONE FEEL LEFT OUT. I TRY AND KEEP ALL OF YOU HAPPY. BUT NOTHING I DO REALLY SEEMS TO MAKE YOU HAPPY OR MAKE YOU A TEAM. YOU SAY YOU ARE WORRIED IF I MAKE A MISTAKE I MIGHT PULL YOU OUT WELL YES AFTER A FEW TIMES I MIGHT BUT YOU OBVIOUSLY MISS THE POINT OF ME TAKING YOU OUT WHICH IS TOO COLLECT YOURSELF SO YOU CAN GO BACK IN. CUPPY?S JOB IS TO RUN IN AND OUT AND IF YOU START TO GET DOWN ON YOURSELF I THROW HER IN BUT YOU CAN NOT TELL ME I DO NOT PUT YOU IN THE NEXT PLAY BECAUSE I DO. I ALSO DO THESE THINGS TO TRY AND HELP YOU OUT. I DON?T LIKE POUTING AND I TOLD ALL OF YOU THAT WHEN YOU POUT ON THE COURT IT CAN HURT THE WHOLE TEAM. WHEN I TAKE YOU OUT IT IS NOT SUPPOSE TO BE PUNISHMENT BUT YOU AND I OBVIOUSLY SEE THINGS DIFFERENTLY. WHEN YOU ALL MADE THAT POINT IT WAS AGAIN POINTING TO THE ?ME? ?I? THEORY. YOU FEEL SORRY FOR YOURSELF AND COMPOUND THINGS. I WILL NEVER BE MADE AT YOU FOR BEING AGGRESSIVE BUT I WANT YOU TO BE SMART AND AGGRESSIVE THERE IS SUCH A THING. I ALSO WANT YOU TO BE INTENSE BECAUSE I BELIEVE THAT HELPS YOUR GAME WHEN YOU ARE ALL EXCITED AND CHEER. BUT THE MINUTE I SAY SOMETHING THAT SHOULD NOT STOP YOU, YOU SHOULD BE STRONGER THAN THAT. I DO BELIEVE IN YOU AND THAT IS WHY I PUSH YOU IF I DID NOT BELIEVE I WOULD SIT BACK AND WATCH YOU LOSE AND WATCH YOU STRUGGLE BUT APPARENTLY THAT IS WHAT YOU WANT ME TO DO OR THAT IS THE IDEA I GOT FROM YOU. YOU WANT ME TO CLAP WHEN SOMETHING GOOD HAPPENS BUT WHEN SOMETHING BAD HAPPENS I AM SUPPOSE TO SIT BACK AND SAY EVERYTHING IS OK. I DON?T KNOW IF I CAN COACH LIKE THAT ESPECIALLY BECAUSE I KNOW THAT SOME PEOPLE DO APPRECIATE THE COMMENTS. HILGER OFTEN LOOKS TO ME FOR GUIDANCE AND SO DOES LINDSEY AND OTHERS BUT SOME OF YOU DO NOT WANT THAT AND THAT IS WHAT YOU WERE TELLING ME IN THE LETTER YOU HAD STARTED. UNFORTUNATELY I CAN NOT AND SHOULD NOT CHANGE THE WAY I COACH FOR A GROUP OF GIRLS BUT WITH YOU GUYS IT IS HARD BECAUSE I DO CARE. COACHES ARE NOT SUPPOSED TO CHANGE FOR THEIR TEAMS TEAMS ARE SUPPOSED TO CHANGE FOR THEIR COACHES BUT YOU CERTAINLY DON’T BELIEVE THAT.
WELL I GUESS TONIGHT I WILL BE FINDING OUT HOW YOU REALLY FEEL AS INDIVIDUALS AND MAYBE I WILL BE SURPRISED AGAIN BUT I GUESS IT WAS A RISK I HAD TO TAKE. I JUST HOPE YOU THINK ABOUT WHAT I SAID AND REALIZE I DO CARE AND I DO BELIEVE IN YOU. BECAUSE IF YOU DON?T I AM JUST WASTING MY AIR AND I HAVE FELT LIKE I HAVE DONE THAT TOO MUCH THIS SEASON ALREADY. IT IS TOO EARLY TO GIVE UP AND IT IS TOO EARLY TO FALL APART. YOU NEED TO LOOK INSIDE YOURSELVES AND FIND YOU THE STRONG YOU. IF I NEED TO START BEING JUST A COACH AND NOT YOUR FRIEND I WILL DO IT BUT I REALLY DON?T WANT TO BECAUSE I APPRECIATE YOU ALL AS PEOPLE AND THE QUALITIES YOU POSSESS AND THAT IS WHAT A LOT OF COACHES MISS OUT ON WHEN THEY DON?T CARE ABOUT THEIR TEAM. THEY JUST DON?T REALLY GET TO SEE WHAT GREAT GIRLS THEY HAVE AND WHAT TALENTS THEY POSSESS. AT LEAST I CAN WALK AWAY AND KNOW THAT IS SOMETHING I
DEAR TEAM,
WELL I CAN SAY I HAVE NEVER DONE SOMETHING LIKE THIS BEFORE IN THE THREE YEARS I HAVE BEEN COACHING THAT IS. I HAVE NEVER WRITTEN A LETTER TO MY TEAM. ACTUALLY IT IS FUNNY BECAUSE ABOUT SIX MONTHS AGO I WAS AT THIS SAME COMPUTER WRITING MY COACH A LETTER. I HAVE BEEN WHERE ALL YOU HAVE BEEN AND I KNOW HOW IT IS BUT I THINK YOU DON?T REALIZE HOW NICE IT IS TO HAVE TWO COACHES THAT CARE ABOUT YOU. IN YOUR FUTURE YOU ARE GOING TO COME ACROSS A LOT OF COACHES WHO DON?T CARE ABOUT YOU OR YOUR FEELINGS. I COULD BET THAT YOU WILL NEVER HAVE ANOTHER COACH ASK YOU TO WRITE THEM HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT ISSUES BECAUSE MOST COACHES JUST DON?T CARE AND I COULD ALSO BET THAT YOU WILL NEVER HAVE ANOTHER COACH WRITE YOU A LETTER TO DISCUSS SOMETHING THAT HAPPENED THAT IS BOTHERING HER. I CAME HOME TONIGHT AND REALLY DID NOT WANT TO DO MUCH WHY BECAUSE I DID NOT FEEL LIKE MUCH. YOU SAY I BRING YOU DOWN AND BRING YOUR SELF-ESTEEM DOWN WELL YOU DID THE SAME THING TO ME. YOU REALLY DID LET ME KNOW HOW YOU FELT AND IT WAS ALL ANGER. IT SEEMED TO ME THAT YOU ARE SELECTIVE LISTENERS AND ONLY HEAR WHAT YOU WANT TO HEAR. YOU SAID TODAY THAT I ONLY TALK ABOUT NEGATIVES WELL THAT IS A BUNCH OF BS. MAYBE YOU ONLY CHOOSE TO HEAR AND LISTEN TO THE NEGATIVES AND FORGET ABOUT THE POSITIVE THINGS I DO HAVE TO SAY. YOU WILL NEVER BE ABLE TO PUT YOURSELVES INTO MY SHOES UNTIL YOU GET TO EXPERIENCE COACHING. IT CAN BE A REAL EASY JOB IF YOU DON?T CARE, BUT THE PROBLEM WITH ME AND TODD IS THAT WE DO. TODD AND I BOTH CARE ABOUT EACH AND EVERY ONE OF YOU INDIVIDUALLY AND THAT IS WHY WE GET UPSET. HELL IF I DID NOT CARE ABOUT YOU I WOULD NOT CARE IF YOU WON OR LOST AND I WOULD NOT CARE IF YOU WOULD IMPROVE I WOULD JUST BE THERE AS A SPACE FILLER. YOU TAKE A LOT FOR GRANTED HOW MANY COACHES DO LITTLE THINGS FOR YOU TO TRY AND MAKE YOU MORE POSITIVE. I DO TRY AND ALTHOUGH I GET UPSET I THINK I DESERVE A LITTLE MORE CREDIT THAT YOU GAVE ME YESTERDAY. IT IS ABOUT RESPECT. DO YOU KNOW IF YOU WERE ON A DIFFERENT TEAM IN THIS CLUB YOU MIGHT NOT EVEN SEE THE FLOOR. I HAVE 12 OF YOU GIRLS TO WORK WITH AND YET I TRY MY HARDEST TO GET EVERYONE IN AND LET NO ONE FEEL LEFT OUT. I TRY AND KEEP ALL OF YOU HAPPY. BUT NOTHING I DO REALLY SEEMS TO MAKE YOU HAPPY OR MAKE YOU A TEAM. YOU SAY YOU ARE WORRIED IF I MAKE A MISTAKE I MIGHT PULL YOU OUT WELL YES AFTER A FEW TIMES I MIGHT BUT YOU OBVIOUSLY MISS THE POINT OF ME TAKING YOU OUT WHICH IS TOO COLLECT YOURSELF SO YOU CAN GO BACK IN. CUPPY?S JOB IS TO RUN IN AND OUT AND IF YOU START TO GET DOWN ON YOURSELF I THROW HER IN BUT YOU CAN NOT TELL ME I DO NOT PUT YOU IN THE NEXT PLAY BECAUSE I DO. I ALSO DO THESE THINGS TO TRY AND HELP YOU OUT. I DON?T LIKE POUTING AND I TOLD ALL OF YOU THAT WHEN YOU POUT ON THE COURT IT CAN HURT THE WHOLE TEAM. WHEN I TAKE YOU OUT IT IS NOT SUPPOSE TO BE PUNISHMENT BUT YOU AND I OBVIOUSLY SEE THINGS DIFFERENTLY. WHEN YOU ALL MADE THAT POINT IT WAS AGAIN POINTING TO THE ?ME? ?I? THEORY. YOU FEEL SORRY FOR YOURSELF AND COMPOUND THINGS. I WILL NEVER BE MADE AT YOU FOR BEING AGGRESSIVE BUT I WANT YOU TO BE SMART AND AGGRESSIVE THERE IS SUCH A THING. I ALSO WANT YOU TO BE INTENSE BECAUSE I BELIEVE THAT HELPS YOUR GAME WHEN YOU ARE ALL EXCITED AND CHEER. BUT THE MINUTE I SAY SOMETHING THAT SHOULD NOT STOP YOU, YOU SHOULD BE STRONGER THAN THAT. I DO BELIEVE IN YOU AND THAT IS WHY I PUSH YOU IF I DID NOT BELIEVE I WOULD SIT BACK AND WATCH YOU LOSE AND WATCH YOU STRUGGLE BUT APPARENTLY THAT IS WHAT YOU WANT ME TO DO OR THAT IS THE IDEA I GOT FROM YOU. YOU WANT ME TO CLAP WHEN SOMETHING GOOD HAPPENS BUT WHEN SOMETHING BAD HAPPENS I AM SUPPOSE TO SIT BACK AND SAY EVERYTHING IS OK. I DON?T KNOW IF I CAN COACH LIKE THAT ESPECIALLY BECAUSE I KNOW THAT SOME PEOPLE DO APPRECIATE THE COMMENTS. HILGER OFTEN LOOKS TO ME FOR GUIDANCE AND SO DOES LINDSEY AND OTHERS BUT SOME OF YOU DO NOT WANT THAT AND THAT IS WHAT YOU WERE TELLING ME IN THE LETTER YOU HAD STARTED. UNFORTUNATELY I CAN NOT AND SHOULD NOT CHANGE THE WAY I COACH FOR A GROUP OF GIRLS BUT WITH YOU GUYS IT IS HARD BECAUSE I DO CARE. COACHES ARE NOT SUPPOSED TO CHANGE FOR THEIR TEAMS TEAMS ARE SUPPOSED TO CHANGE FOR THEIR COACHES BUT YOU CERTAINLY DON’T BELIEVE THAT.
WELL I GUESS TONIGHT I WILL BE FINDING OUT HOW YOU REALLY FEEL AS INDIVIDUALS AND MAYBE I WILL BE SURPRISED AGAIN BUT I GUESS IT WAS A RISK I HAD TO TAKE. I JUST HOPE YOU THINK ABOUT WHAT I SAID AND REALIZE I DO CARE AND I DO BELIEVE IN YOU. BECAUSE IF YOU DON?T I AM JUST WASTING MY AIR AND I HAVE FELT LIKE I HAVE DONE THAT TOO MUCH THIS SEASON ALREADY. IT IS TOO EARLY TO GIVE UP AND IT IS TOO EARLY TO FALL APART. YOU NEED TO LOOK INSIDE YOURSELVES AND FIND YOU THE STRONG YOU. IF I NEED TO START BEING JUST A COACH AND NOT YOUR FRIEND I WILL DO IT BUT I REALLY DON?T WANT TO BECAUSE I APPRECIATE YOU ALL AS PEOPLE AND THE QUALITIES YOU POSSESS AND THAT IS WHAT A LOT OF COACHES MISS OUT ON WHEN THEY DON?T CARE ABOUT THEIR TEAM. THEY JUST DON?T REALLY GET TO SEE WHAT GREAT GIRLS THEY HAVE AND WHAT TALENTS THEY POSSESS. AT LEAST I CAN WALK AWAY AND KNOW THAT IS SOMETHING I DID NOT MISS OUT ON.