, Research Paper
Six months after I met a young man, he expressed to me
how much he loved me. Being sixteen years old, I thought it
to be very flattering but I could not accept him saying this
to me. The word, love in the romantic sense, is something
that would take so much out of me to say to a person.
Love is something that you express to someone that you
can not, in any way, see living your life without. The last
time I saw the young man who supposedly loved me, was
on my seventeenth birthday when he told me I was a waste
of his time. Love is the strongest emotion and most
powerful word anyone can say to someone else. Some
people use the word love everyday as though it is not as
big of a deal as it really is. Jewel’s song, "Always,"
illustrates a definition of love. The first line of the song
totally defines love in the same way I do with, "Please don’t
say ‘I love you,’ those words touch me much too deeply."
With this one line, my entire definition of love is presented.
There are other things people can love: a pet, family
members, certain kinds of food but these are all loved by a
different kind of love. There are millions of ways you can
love, but this kind of love does not happen all the time to a
person. It is the kind of love that is not there at the
beginning, but grows inside you. This kind of love is for
another person that you can not see your life without, even
though at one time it was without that person. To express
this to someone is to propose to commit your life to that
other person. The other person may not feel the same way
and that is why it is hard to accept someone saying that.
One expressing their love to another is the greatest
compliment one could ever receive for they are wanted in
someone else’s life forever. There are some people that do
not understand the meaning of love and use it all the time as
though it was just some word that makes people happy.
The young man who told me he loved me also told me a
month later that I was a waste of his time. He is an example
of someone using
himself happy. I watched the soap opera, "Sunset Beach,"
and every other character is telling someone else how much
they love them, but they also change who they love on a
weekly basis. I also watched a character ask her husband if
he would just learn to love her. There is no way that
someone could learn to love anyone when love is an
emotion that is already inside a person but does not come
out until one finds someone they really love. This
representation of love is so misleading that some people
may never know what love is really like for they are
deceived by television shows like this. I also watched the
movie, "Titanic," which was referred to as one of the
greatest love stories ever. The character of "Rose" is in love
with another man who she is about to marry. She then
meets "Jack" and she no longer knows if she loves her
fiancee for this new man seems so much better. No one
could possibly grow love for another after only knowing
each other for a day. This is another misleading
representation of love where people will begin to think that
someone that made them happy is the love of their life. This
movie would be a great love story if something like this was
possible but for something that is immensely fiction, it is
something nice to watch, not to believe in. Due to love
being the greatest compliment, everybody wants to
experience it at least one time in their life. Some people
take it however they can, where others are almost
incapable of it. The way Jewel defines love in her song is
the way people should think of love: as words that touch
one too deeply. Love is not something to try to rush into,
for everyone will experience love sometime in their life.
Those that do not understand what love really is and
express to anyone that they love them, will be stuck in a
dream world that is supported by soap operas and fictional
movies. If one does not go out looking to love, then they
may possibly find their love that they would do anything to
be with.