Date Rape Essay, Research Paper
In an ideal world, all men would be caring , respectful, and protective. This
is not an ideal world; every woman has a responsibility to herself and to
understand the risks and to protect herself fagainst them (Date Rape: The Danger
is Not From a Stranger 13). One of the biggest risks from a male to a female is
date rape. Date rape is the crime in which the victim, most of them women, is
forced in to having sexual intercourse by someone they are familiar with (1). 1 in
4 women will be raped in their life time. This is a very scary, yet true statistic.
Women need to understand what is going on with the situation of date rape, and be
looked on less as the problem, so more women will come out and report the
incident. It is not in any way the woman’s fault for being the victim of date rape,
but it is the fault of the rapist, and the rapist should pay the consequences.
The question might come up…why would a man force a woman to have sex, or
why would a woman doubt that it happened, or that she was forced? Well, there
are many reasons. A lot of these reasons having to do with how American kids are
raised. Boys are brought up thinking they are strong and aggressive, while on the
other hand, girls are brought up being passive and “what you say goes” (Shuker-
Haines and Stark 23) . This shouldn’t be going on in our society…not with the
advancements we have made in our country.
It is sometimes said that the woman who was the victim of rape shared fault
for the rape for wearing a skirt too short, or maybe if she stops over at his house.
It shouldn’t matter what women wear, or where they are. If a woman says no to
sexual activity, then everything should stop. There are also ways that men “mis-
interperate” things women say. For instance, when women say “no”, they mean
“not yet…keep trying”, or men think it is okay to be rough, as long as there is no
injury, or if the women agrees to kidding, necking, etc…then she wants intercourse.
Some men also look at women as “fair game” if the woman is not a virgin. There
seems to also be confusion whether rape was commited in instances like when a
sexually active couple had been drinking and the woman says no to having sex, but
is too drunk to do anything so sex occurs. Or perhaps earlier in the date she said
okay, and then change her mind, or maybe the woman said no, and the man
persuaded her to. Are these instances rape? More women
There are no laws to destinquish these situations (Date Rape: The Danger in Not
From the Stranger 6). There shouldn’t have to be laws to say when it is rape. If a
woman says “no”, she means “no”. No one should ever force shomeone else to
have sex against their will. That’s rape. And rape is the fault of the rapist, not the
victim (qtd. in Shucker-Haines and Stark 22).
It is hard enough for a woman to come out and admit her story of being
raped, but it is harder when she tells her story and it isn’t even given two glances.
In San Jose, California, a girl was raped by her boyfriend and when sh came out
and talked about it, the school ignored the issue (Herald 2). The school stated that
they should stay out of it because it was too hard to prove, and that it was only her
word against his (2). The crime of rape should not be over- looked in such a way.
Rape is looked as a crime of assult. Like other assults rape causes physical and
mental injuries. It especially causes a long and painful emotional aftermath for the
victim. The rapist who caused all of this for his victim has a chance of serving jail
terms, perhpas lasting for years, but so many times rapists walk because “there
wasn’t proof”. In these situations like that judges look at what kind of people the
man and the woman are, and what their relationship is. That’s called sterotyping.
We are taught not to sterotype (Date Rape: The Danger is Not From the Stranger
3).
In some cases, women take a stand, and when the case is being looked at, and
possibly proved, women will come back to the police and ask to drop the charges
saying things like “I was wrong…we were making love” (Hennessy 3). Women
need to be strong as well as be educated with what date rape is. They can’t back
down on their gaurd. Rapists need to pay for how they abuse women, both
externally as well as internally. A 1988 study showed that more than half the
female teens surveyed thought there were times when it would be acceptable for a
man to force sex (Date Rape: The Danger is Not From the Stranger 10). This is
terrible! It is not a woman’s fault that she was forced into sex! In the 1993-94 law
enforcement records, 35% of the women who reported thier rapes dropped or
diverted the charges for “various reasons” (4). Women need to face the situation
head on and be independent…realizing what happened to her is not okay…and
things need to be done.